Poetry vs. Death’s Madness

Arnold Bocklin, "Self Portrait with Death"

Arnold Bocklin, “Self Portrait with Death”

In the hours we spent in the hospital room of my dying father, our family members spent a lot of time reading. My mother came across the following poem in a Dorothy Dunnett historical romance (Checkmate) that moved her to the core. The spelling seems to be Old French at times although my grasp of the language isn’t good enough for me to know that for sure and for once my French professor father couldn’t help us. Anyway, it captured for my mother her deep love for him:

Tant que je vive, mon coeur ne changera
Pour nulle vivante, tant soit elle bonne ou sage
Forte et puissante, riche de hault lignaige
Mon chois est fait, aultre ne se fera.

Here’s a rough translation:

Long as I live, my heart will never vary
For no one else, however fair or good
Brave, resolute, rich, of gentle blood.
My choice is made, and I will have no other.

I felt a chill when I read the words. And since I’m currently listening to and reading David Copperfield, it reminded me of Mrs. Micawber’s somewhat comical but still heartfelt assertion, “But I never will desert Mr. Micawber.”

Meanwhile, friends have been sending us poems. Because of language’s limitations in the face of tragedy, poetry is called upon to do the heavy lifting. A Slovene colleague who has a very sick daughter wrote that literature appears more important than it ever did in more carefree times. This poem by the Irish poet Ciaran O’Driscoll captures his parental feelings of vulnerability at the moment:

Life Monitor

This sanctuary I visit still,  
where my son’s body is curved
in the slump of sleep. Such a great spread
beneath the blankets, who was once so small,
I stand and wonder at his girth.
Only occasionally now I call
where I used to go morning and night
and listen, fearful of cot death,
for the certain rhythm of his breath.  

Now he has turned thirteen,  
and knows how to measure a curved line
or determine the volume of 
irregular solids like himself,
gels his hair with American Crew,
and worries about the first spot on his chin.

Morning comes tingling through
along the edges of the blind
and down the hazy spines of shadows. 
Here in the first light is a holy place,
a simple chapel where I still incline
to hear the sermon of the essential:
his breathing’s rise and fall.

My cousin Jim Bates responded to yesterday’s post on silence by sending the following meditation prayer that he uses:


Each morning’s light…a kindness
Washing away the night’s debris
Revealing within the dissipating mist
Always riding upon the still currents of the Mind
The quiet heart’s breath

And Mike Hazard, an old Carleton classmate, sent me this Tom McGrath poem, which notes that light must always have been present for us to “have come so far”:

How could I have come so far?
(And always on such dark trails!)
I must have traveled by the light
Shining from the faces of all those I have loved.

As I noted in a post a while back, Kurt Vonnegut writes in Cat’s Cradle that “without literature we would die like mad dogs.” Poetry stands as a bulwark against the sense of dissolution, chaos and madness that accompanies death.

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  • sue

    Often when a loved one dies, friends bring over food. How wonderful that your friends, Robin, are bringing you nourishment in the form of poetry. Thank you for sharing them with us. I especially love the last poem – led by the light from the faces of all we have loved. Perhaps that includes those who are no longer with us here in this world…

  • pat

    I am so glad I found your blog! I was searching the internet for something about your father and could not even find an obituary. I graduated from Sewanee in 1976. Only had one French class, but Dr. Bates was one of those integral bricks in the edifice that is Sewanee. I only recently learned of his association with Highlander Folk School. Wish I had known of that earlier. (I graduated from Franklin County High, so you think I might have at least had some awareness of Highlander!)

    What a blessing that you and your family could be with him in the end. I appreciate your description of the last days…. and your words made me realize how much I miss good literature. God bless you and yours!

  • Robin Bates

    Thanks so much for writing, Pat. I love to hear back from former students of my father. If you click on “Scott Bates” under the list of authors (scroll down on the right hand column of the blog), you will see a collection of the many posts I have written about him. A life patterns starts to emerge from them. We are just about ready to send an obituary to the local papers.

  • pat

    Robin, I did find the obituary, thank you! And what a surprise to discover that your brother is at APSU! I live in the Clarksville area. Also was intrigued by your father’s recent interest in brain studies and quantum physics. So may I assume that he read The Divine Matrix? A fascinating topic! I found myself “seeing” Biblical parallels as I went through the book, but that is the filter I apply to most everything!

    Praying you and your family are blessed by many precious memories as you walk the path of mourning.


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